To say that life after the wedding can feel anti-climactic is an understatement. Many couples report everything from stress over starting life as a married couple to outright depression that the big day is over and behind them. The reasons for these post-wedding blues range from the specific to general. Some examples of what couples have reported gave them post-winter blues include:
- Financial stress over paying down wedding-related debt or dealing with the new reality of having shared finances.
- Regret or frustration about what may not have gone as planned at the wedding from disappointing situations, to a freak weather event that threw a wrench into your perfectly made travel plans.
- General, non-specific, downright mysterious sadness or malaise.
There are some things you can do ahead of time or any time after the wedding to alleviate some of these post-wedding blues. Here are some tools, ideas and reminders for those who might find themselves facing a few of these post-wedding blues.
Get a Financial Adviser or Planner
This is something you can do anytime. Doing this before the wedding will help you have insight into how to budget your wedding in the first place without breaking the bank! However, anytime is a good time to find someone who can help you and your partner navigate complicated financial processes (like filing taxes as a married couple for the first time) or setting up some investments and savings plans.
Sell Back some Wedding Items for Cash
There are lots of places to resell your gently used wedding items from the dress to charger plates from your centerpieces. You might be amazed to see how making a little money on those items will help alleviate post-wedding financial stress. Bridal Veil Dreams would love to help you connect with couples looking for cheap wedding décor and wedding dresses and everything in between. Visit our Hope Chest to learn how you can sell back your wedding items and help another couple find just the right items for their wedding.
Find Ways to be Helpful and Stay Busy
Try volunteering at a local charity, making a point to be helpful to people who you know could use a babysitter or a ride to the airport or offer an extra pair of hands to help tackle a home improvement project. When you do something helpful you get out of your own thoughts for a while and find that afterwards you feel a little lighter and happier. In other words, if you want to feel good? Do good acts.
Stay Connected with Family and Friends
In the months leading up to a wedding you connect with long-lost relatives and friends while spending a lot more time talking with and seeing loved ones near and far. Then, after the wedding, things may seem to quiet down and – whether you’re aware of it or not – you start to miss all of that connection. Reach out! Plan some trips for the next year. Make plans. Pick up the phone and call friends and family and let them know you’re thinking of them.
Focus on Personal Growth
Many couples who report a general feeling of depression often discover, after some investigation, that a feeling of loss-of-self is at the heart of their feelings. After so much planning and excitement around getting married it is easy to lose track of the things that make you happy and define you as a person. Make a list of the things that define you and bring you joy. Then make a plan to do at least one of those things every day. Let your partner know how they can support you.
Set some Goals
After so much planning the period after a wedding may feel like a letdown. Find some projects or goals you can tackle to get back to that feeling of having something to look forward to. Sign up for a marathon or triathalon, try learning a new language or start planning the purchase of your first home.
Share your Feelings
Lastly, let people know how you feel. Ask for love and support while also making sure to let the people close to you know that you love and support them. Let your spouse know and be open to their feelings. Lean on each other. And if it feels a little more intense than “just a case of the blues” look into talking with a therapist who can help you sort through your feelings.
Share your Story
Sharing your experience will help and inspire others. Consider submitting your wedding story to Bridal Veil Dreams. Featuring everything you need to plan the perfect wedding including DIY-resources, local vendors, cost-saving boutique shopping and inspiration from real weddings We would love to hear from you and possibly feature your story.
Lastly, remember to be patient with yourself. The time after a wedding may feel a little less exciting. That’s okay! There is a lot more adventure to come. So be kind to yourself and your partner, ask for help and know that there is much more Post-wedding excitement and joy to come.
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